The reflection of love

This past week I have been working a lot on myself, and I mainly focused on love, the love I receive and the love I give to others. I had heard in a video that the love you did not receive when you were younger is the love you intend to give to others. For instance, if you did not receive unconditional love from someone close to you (like a parent), you will try to provide that unconditional love to others. However, we sometimes don’t think about the exchange of love related to parental love we got throughout our childhood until we start being in relationships and decide to observe our patterns of attachment.

I, for one, realized that love should be reciprocal. I know we should stop expecting, and I have written about that. Nonetheless, I must say that expectations are harmless if you know that you deserve whatever it is that you are expecting. In this case, we all deserve to be loved, even if sometimes it is hard to believe that we are not worthy of it. But that is precisely my point… When we are younger, we can see those patterns start taking shape when we are older. And sometimes, we feel unworthy of love because that is how we were shown to receive love. But love has no specific definition; it is an energy, an emotion, and a force that can be exchanged. And it is so powerful that it can define how we feel as individuals and how we show ourselves to others. Why do you think that self-love is so important?

When we are younger, how we receive love can also be reflected in how we show love to ourselves. And as I have said before, our patterns are repeated on an endless loop until we realize what they are and decide to shift them.

So, I invite you to ponder on those patterns of love and attachment you’ve had since childhood. It will be hard to go back in time at first, but it’s worth it. Because once you open up that can of worms, there is no going back in that journey of growth and self-love.

Z.